Weird facts about gay guys

Although these memes are essentially frivolous, they do play an important role in how we see ourselves, particularly given how scarcely we are represented elsewhere. This is why I have taken it upon myself to tell you why your favourite jokes — the ones you thought were just a spot of harmless banter — are actually deeply problematic.

The fun stops now. When I was 17, when most of my peers were learning to drive, I was too busy taking mephedrone and playing synth in a band with my female best friend — which is, however you look at it, pretty gay. I always knew I was going to live in a city when I was older, so learning to drive seemed like a waste of time.

Never would I have to do anything so prosaic as ferrying my children to school or driving to my job in an out-of-town business park: I was destined for gayer things.

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Although my upbringing was provincial in comparison to London, in the context of central Scotland I was practically a city slicker. However, Sean — a gay man who claims to be able to drive a freak, an oddball… surely at least bisexual? Not that I went cruising or anything, I just drove around listening to Kelly Clarkson with my gals, but it was still an escape from the trappings of heterosexual domesticity.

And one I needed a full license for. In order to get the perspective of someone smarter than myself, I spoke to Pak Chiu, a queer academic who specialises in fashion psychology. I asked Pak whether driving has been coded as a masculine skill. Thankfully there is one mode of transport at which we excel.

Sorry, gran! The stereotype relates, again, to the idea of gay men as being urban. But does it suggest anxiety or confidence? Like lots of gay men, I grew up in a homophobic town where I often felt extremely visible; weird facts about gay guys hostile looks were sometimes imaginary, but others all too real.

Now, one of the things I like most about living in a city is the sense of anonymity it affords. But even residual feelings of hyper-visibility might lead gay men to feel discomfort in public spaces… and walk quickly? I spoke to Carl Bonner-Thompson, a human geographer at the University of Oxford, and asked him whether he thought this stereotype was a reflection of anxiety.

And walking quickly through a city is an urban skill. And yet… I do not understand the appeal of Carly Rae Jepsen. Since the release of her album Emotionthe Canadian singer has become, if not quite a fully-fledged icon, then certainly a meme. It taps into a nostalgia that is prevalent among queer people.

As a gay man with an only moderate iced coffee intake, I also find it annoying: it makes me want to chase a power-walking gay down the street and smack the iced coffee from their smug, sophisticated hands. Why do I crave recognition from these meme-merchants? I tell Carl how baffled I am by this stereotype and ask what he thinks.

But does Carl think this stereotype also relates to the idea of gay men as urban? You associate it with having purchased it from a coffee shop, which again lends itself to the idea of the urban explorer. The stereotype also suggests some degree of affluence. Is this a new stereotype?

Has it seen a resurgence through internet humour?