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There are certain scenarios that many gay men live in fear of. Getting a haircut from a new, heterosexual barber. Kicking a football back to a group of lads in the park. Sending your dad a text meant for your daddy by mistake. Oh, just me then? When it comes to sexthe potential for awkward situations is even higher.

Particularly when, for lack of other options and holesanal sex is the default setting for many gay men. A dreaded gay sex scenario can happen if mess, otherwise known as shit, appears during the deed. To avoid this, lots of gay men douche their bumhole with liquid beforehand.

Nature often takes its course unexpectedly, particularly if food, drink or other substances have been consumed. For many, this involves altering their eating habits when they know sex is on the horizon, or constructing a diet that enables easier anal sex. Drew, who also lives in London, tells me that because he has a boyfriend, he makes significant changes to his diet to acommodate regular sex.

Drew also cuts out other foods. Some bottoms tell me that nerves relating to bad experiences have put them off certain foods for life. Even the smell reminds me of that evening now. Evan Goldstein, founder and CEO of Bespoke Surgical, says that nerves before sex can have an effect on the digestive transit.

The goal is to attempt to minimise any anxiety and set the stage for success. If one cannot, then call off the troops for that night. Given these reservations, a healthy diet can play a big part in feeling at ease during anal sex. Some bottoms take this need for fibre to more extreme levels.

Matthew, a vegetarian, tells me he regularly uses fibre packages. Damian, on the other hand, takes Imodium, a diarrhoea treatment, to keep the poo from moving. However both Goldstein and nutritionist Hobson do not advise using such substances. Ultimately the perfect bottoming diet, much like the perfect shagdepends entirely on the person.

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